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sending you **huge* huggles sweetie ... sorry to hear this 
Posted: 23:16 May 01 2002
Kitty needs a cuddle :'(
Had a phonecall from my dad this afternoon, to tell me my Grandma is dying and she probably won't last the night.
I went straight over to Yorkshire to see her, and have just got home. I've never seen anyone dying before, she looked so ill, and frail, as if she would snap if she moved.
She couldn't speak anymore and I'm not sure if she recognised me or not. I stroked her for a bit and we were talking to her, but she could only manage a few murmurs of sound, and she just stared at us.
I'm so devastated, coz I didn't make time to go and see her very often and now I've seen her for the last time, and I feel so guilty. I cried all the way home, after saying goodbye, and am still tearful now.
I have so many questions running round my head, like does she know it's the end, and will someone be with her when the time comes? The thought of her being alone is too much to bear. I just feel so useless now, I was supposed to keep talking to her as she still has her hearing, but I didn't know what to say, and now I feel as though I've wasted our last time together
I've never had to deal with anyone dying before (my grandad died when I was 3 but I was too young to understand) and I'm feeling so lost.
Guess I could do with a nice long (virtual) cuddle...
I went straight over to Yorkshire to see her, and have just got home. I've never seen anyone dying before, she looked so ill, and frail, as if she would snap if she moved.
She couldn't speak anymore and I'm not sure if she recognised me or not. I stroked her for a bit and we were talking to her, but she could only manage a few murmurs of sound, and she just stared at us.
I'm so devastated, coz I didn't make time to go and see her very often and now I've seen her for the last time, and I feel so guilty. I cried all the way home, after saying goodbye, and am still tearful now.
I have so many questions running round my head, like does she know it's the end, and will someone be with her when the time comes? The thought of her being alone is too much to bear. I just feel so useless now, I was supposed to keep talking to her as she still has her hearing, but I didn't know what to say, and now I feel as though I've wasted our last time together
I've never had to deal with anyone dying before (my grandad died when I was 3 but I was too young to understand) and I'm feeling so lost.
Guess I could do with a nice long (virtual) cuddle...
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OK, here comes the first (of loads, I'm sure) cuddle.
*Hug*
There's nothing I can really say to make things better, it's an awful thing to go through, but I'm sure some part of her knew you were there and appreciated. I don't think it was a waste.
*Hug*
There's nothing I can really say to make things better, it's an awful thing to go through, but I'm sure some part of her knew you were there and appreciated. I don't think it was a waste.
Posted: 23:20 May 01 2002
*big hugs* babe
Posted: 00:29 May 02 2002 
Huge *huggles* Kitty. Sorry to hear about your grandma.
I've only lost one family member that I was close to and that was my grandad, but it was really sudden (a heart attack) and the one thing that always bugged me was not getting a chance to say goodbye
Whatever happens now at least you had that chance to go and see your grandma and that may comfort you in the long run.
I've only lost one family member that I was close to and that was my grandad, but it was really sudden (a heart attack) and the one thing that always bugged me was not getting a chance to say goodbye
Whatever happens now at least you had that chance to go and see your grandma and that may comfort you in the long run.
Posted: 00:51 May 02 2002
Kitty - our thoughts and prayers go to you and your family at this time
At the end of the day, I'm sure you're Grandmother knows how much you love her and understands that in this busy world making time to see her was difficult, but it doesn't mean you didn't think of her.
My aunt who passed away just before Christmas knew when her time was coming as she said she felt a great peace/warmth/light.
BIG *HUGGLES* and more BIG *HUGGLES* to you
At the end of the day, I'm sure you're Grandmother knows how much you love her and understands that in this busy world making time to see her was difficult, but it doesn't mean you didn't think of her.
My aunt who passed away just before Christmas knew when her time was coming as she said she felt a great peace/warmth/light.
BIG *HUGGLES* and more BIG *HUGGLES* to you
Posted: 07:53 May 02 2002
Oh Kel, Huge *huggles* . If you need any real life ones you know my number - just shout.
Its hard to say anything without sounding trite and patronising but suffice to say that my thoughts are with you and Claire and i hope you get through this ok.
Its hard to say anything without sounding trite and patronising but suffice to say that my thoughts are with you and Claire and i hope you get through this ok.
Posted: 09:02 May 02 2002 
*Huggles*
At least when she goes she will be at peace.
At least when she goes she will be at peace.
Posted: 10:34 May 02 2002
*huggles* awww, you're Poor grandmother
My thoughts are with you and your family...
My thoughts are with you and your family...
Posted: 10:45 May 02 2002 
Big hugs Kitty , I remeber before my grandmother past away just how frail she looked I dont think I'll ever forget that Image
More hugs and stuff on their way to you hun
More hugs and stuff on their way to you hun
Posted: 12:16 May 02 2002
Awwwwwwwwwwwww!! Poor babe!!HUGE hugs being sent your way
HUGE hugs being sent your way
Posted: 16:59 May 02 2002
awww sweetie, i knwo i gave you loads of huggles last night but heres some more *millions of huggles*
i've had 3 close family members die and i know how hard it is but i've also done the 3 ways of them dying.
I was with my grandmother (who i saw as my mother) when she died, i visited my grandfather (who i saw as my father) every day when he was in hospital and then was too late getting there when he died and with my other grandfather i wasn't allowed to see him because of my age so i was scared he woudlnt' knwo i loved him. I pormise you, they do know. no way of them leaving is easier than the other.
Your grandmother will know that you love her and i'm sure one of her senses told her who you were. Having family around is the best thing for her and im sure she's go feeling loved
*loads more huggles*
if you need anythign you knwo where i am honey
i've had 3 close family members die and i know how hard it is but i've also done the 3 ways of them dying.
I was with my grandmother (who i saw as my mother) when she died, i visited my grandfather (who i saw as my father) every day when he was in hospital and then was too late getting there when he died and with my other grandfather i wasn't allowed to see him because of my age so i was scared he woudlnt' knwo i loved him. I pormise you, they do know. no way of them leaving is easier than the other.
Your grandmother will know that you love her and i'm sure one of her senses told her who you were. Having family around is the best thing for her and im sure she's go feeling loved
*loads more huggles*
if you need anythign you knwo where i am honey
Posted: 17:43 May 02 2002
Miss Kitty Fantastic has asked me to post a message for everyone who has given her the much needed hugs and support. She would like to thank you all and wants to let you know that her Grandma did make it through the night and she has gone to see her again this evening. I'm sure she'll update everyone as and when news comes.
Posted: 18:00 May 02 2002
*hugs* 
I am so sorry to hear this. more *hugs*
I know what you you are going through. You know you can email any of us.
I am so sorry to hear this.
more *hugs*I know what you you are going through. You know you can email any of us.
Posted: 19:20 May 02 2002
*hugs*
As I've said, hun, really sorry to hear this and my thoughts are with you and your family
As I've said, hun, really sorry to hear this and my thoughts are with you and your family
Posted: 19:25 May 02 2002 [ 1 2 ]