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Awww poor you *huggles*
know how u feel had two grandparents die and a close mate of mine (& she was only 15!)
know how u feel had two grandparents die and a close mate of mine (& she was only 15!)
Posted: 19:54 May 02 2002
Kitty needs a cuddle :'(
Had a phonecall from my dad this afternoon, to tell me my Grandma is dying and she probably won't last the night. 
I went straight over to Yorkshire to see her, and have just got home. I've never seen anyone dying before, she looked so ill, and frail, as if she would snap if she moved.
She couldn't speak anymore and I'm not sure if she recognised me or not. I stroked her for a bit and we were talking to her, but she could only manage a few murmurs of sound, and she just stared at us.
I'm so devastated, coz I didn't make time to go and see her very often and now I've seen her for the last time, and I feel so guilty. I cried all the way home, after saying goodbye, and am still tearful now.
I have so many questions running round my head, like does she know it's the end, and will someone be with her when the time comes? The thought of her being alone is too much to bear. I just feel so useless now, I was supposed to keep talking to her as she still has her hearing, but I didn't know what to say, and now I feel as though I've wasted our last time together
I've never had to deal with anyone dying before (my grandad died when I was 3 but I was too young to understand) and I'm feeling so lost.
Guess I could do with a nice long (virtual) cuddle...
I went straight over to Yorkshire to see her, and have just got home. I've never seen anyone dying before, she looked so ill, and frail, as if she would snap if she moved.
She couldn't speak anymore and I'm not sure if she recognised me or not. I stroked her for a bit and we were talking to her, but she could only manage a few murmurs of sound, and she just stared at us.
I'm so devastated, coz I didn't make time to go and see her very often and now I've seen her for the last time, and I feel so guilty. I cried all the way home, after saying goodbye, and am still tearful now.
I have so many questions running round my head, like does she know it's the end, and will someone be with her when the time comes? The thought of her being alone is too much to bear. I just feel so useless now, I was supposed to keep talking to her as she still has her hearing, but I didn't know what to say, and now I feel as though I've wasted our last time together
I've never had to deal with anyone dying before (my grandad died when I was 3 but I was too young to understand) and I'm feeling so lost.
Guess I could do with a nice long (virtual) cuddle...
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Posted: 19:54 May 02 2002
Kitty - what can I say hun? *huge huggles* Your grandma may not show that she knows you are there but inside her mind she knows you are there & she is smiling out at you.
Losing someone is never easy & I think it is one of the things which doesn't get any easier with 'practise'
*sending loads of hugs your way whenever you need them*
Losing someone is never easy & I think it is one of the things which doesn't get any easier with 'practise'
*sending loads of hugs your way whenever you need them*
Posted: 21:45 May 02 2002
*Hugs* Kitty. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I know that's not possible.
Posted: 00:33 May 03 2002 
***HUGS***
Posted: 14:23 May 03 2002
okay i'm in tears now
I went through all this three years ago when I lost my grandmother to cancer. My dad was with her at the end. She knew I loved her because I said it all the time. She was the strongest woman I've ever known
my thoughts are with you during this difficult time *hugs* more *hugs*
I went through all this three years ago when I lost my grandmother to cancer. My dad was with her at the end. She knew I loved her because I said it all the time. She was the strongest woman I've ever known
my thoughts are with you during this difficult time *hugs*
more *hugs* Posted: 14:33 May 03 2002
I know I have already started a new thread to this effect but i didn't want anybody to accidently miss it and perhaps risk putting their foot in it.
Unfortunately Miss Kitty's Grandma passed away this afternoon at 12:20 (3rd May 2002) Anybody wishing to leave a message of condolance please do so on the thread headed "RIP"
(Edited by Sydney 03/05/2002 15:53)
Unfortunately Miss Kitty's Grandma passed away this afternoon at 12:20 (3rd May 2002) Anybody wishing to leave a message of condolance please do so on the thread headed "RIP"
(Edited by Sydney 03/05/2002 15:53)
Posted: 15:52 May 03 2002 [ 1 2 ]