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Always. Although I also have the bad habit of falling for my female best friends, usually with disastrous consequences. 
Posted: 10:55 May 10 2002
unobtainable men or women
are you guys attracted to men or women you know you can never pull? i'm forever attracted to women who have boy friends or are deffinately not interested even if i know i can get another girl easily i'll always go for the one i can't get. is it something in the brain that makes us gor for the unobtainable because of the challenge do you think and that its not as much fun if we pull someone without trying for ages. see you're like rewarded for all your hard work if you do finally pull the unobtainable, but then do you lose interest once you have?
Posted: 10:55 May 10 2002
I have subconsious Gaydar! I'm always attracted to me who turn out to be gay
On the plus side I do have some fab gay mates who I wouldn't have met had I not initially been attracted to them
On the plus side I do have some fab gay mates who I wouldn't have met had I not initially been attracted to them
Posted: 11:40 May 10 2002 
I think the chase is half the fun for some people once you have that girl/bloke you no longer want them because you have acheived your goal. I have a friend who always try to get off with married men or even my boyfriends, but she does it to prove to herself that she can have anyone she wants! A confidence thing.
Some people say that people who always fall for unobtainable folk are afraid of commitment. I don't necessarily think thats true, but I can see why they it.
Some people say that people who always fall for unobtainable folk are afraid of commitment. I don't necessarily think thats true, but I can see why they it.
Posted: 11:57 May 10 2002 Always?
by Sydney
I'm always attracted to me who turn out to be gay
No-one is unobtainable.
Posted: 12:17 May 10 2002
by Incandenza
No-one is unobtainable.
Ooooo I think they are, not matter how hard I try Brad Pitt just doesnt return my mails
Posted: 13:40 May 10 2002 Same here *sigh*
by Sweet-Sange
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Ooooo I think they are, not matter how hard I try Brad Pitt just doesnt return my mails
Posted: 14:32 May 10 2002
ALL womenseem unobtainable to me
(Edited by Dangermouse 10/05/2002 17:21)
(Edited by Dangermouse 10/05/2002 17:21)
Posted: 17:21 May 10 2002 Dont worry it aint just you.
by Dangermouse
ALL womenseem unobtainable to me
Posted: 18:44 May 10 2002
by Dangermouse
ALL womenseem unobtainable to me
Come on Y do your duty
by JtB
Dont worry it aint just you.
Posted: 19:21 May 10 2002 
I always seem to fall for women who already have boyfriends too. I don't think that it's a fear of commitment, more just bad luck.
Although having said that, there was this one girl who I was completely in love with for ages, but she had a boyfriend. Then one day she tells me that they've split up. So many emotions ran through my body all at once: sympathy because she was very upset about it, happiness because she was now available, guilt at feeling happy about it, worrying about saying the wrong thing and upsetting her. So I comforted her and tried to be there for her as a friend. Then after a while the fear started to set in (and it stayed there for a long time) as I tried to pluck up the courage to tell her how I felt. Eventually I did, and she didn't feel the same way.
So it is easier to be in love with someone who you know you can't have, but I don't think that's the reason why it happens.
Although having said that, there was this one girl who I was completely in love with for ages, but she had a boyfriend. Then one day she tells me that they've split up. So many emotions ran through my body all at once: sympathy because she was very upset about it, happiness because she was now available, guilt at feeling happy about it, worrying about saying the wrong thing and upsetting her. So I comforted her and tried to be there for her as a friend. Then after a while the fear started to set in (and it stayed there for a long time) as I tried to pluck up the courage to tell her how I felt. Eventually I did, and she didn't feel the same way.
So it is easier to be in love with someone who you know you can't have, but I don't think that's the reason why it happens.
Posted: 20:14 May 10 2002 Or mine
by Sweet-Sange
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Ooooo I think they are, not matter how hard I try Brad Pitt just doesnt return my mails
Quite honestly im usually attracted to unobtainable women cos I just plain fancy them. I find it rather irritating that they're unobtainable. I wish I could turn off fancy-ing them
Posted: 20:59 May 10 2002 That's because he's with me. And he says that you should stop sending him your soiled underwear, T.
by Teresa
Same here *sigh*
by Sweet-Sange
Ooooo I think they are, not matter how hard I try Brad Pitt just doesnt return my mails
As for the unobtainable - not sure. I don't share your suicidal tendency for the absolutely impossible (usually with muscular and violent boyfriend), Spike, but I do seem to find myself chasing people who just aren't interested.
And that line about falling for female friends sounds tooooo familiar...
Posted: 02:01 May 11 2002 Hee hee
by Jayjay
That's because he's with me. And he says that you should stop sending him your soiled underwear, T.
Posted: 10:48 May 11 2002 
by PictureOfFlowers
I always seem to fall for women who already have boyfriends too. I don't think that it's a fear of commitment, more just bad luck.
Although having said that, there was this one girl who I was completely in love with for ages, but she had a boyfriend. Then one day she tells me that they've split up. So many emotions ran through my body all at once: sympathy because she was very upset about it, happiness because she was now available, guilt at feeling happy about it, worrying about saying the wrong thing and upsetting her. So I comforted her and tried to be there for her as a friend. Then after a while the fear started to set in (and it stayed there for a long time) as I tried to pluck up the courage to tell her how I felt. Eventually I did, and she didn't feel the same way.
That happened to me. This good friend of mine broke with her longterm b/f so i gave her a couple of weeks to get over ot then asked her out, but she already had another boyfriend
but she did wantto go out with me but doesnt want to dump this new guy, which is a total cop out if ask me. Posted: 11:07 May 11 2002
There's this new guy at work, and he is lush! Unfortunately, on asking him a few questions, I disvovered he's living with his girlfriend and they have a daughter. Gutted
I don't think I always fall for people who are unobtainable, it's just occasionally, I get a bit of bad luck/or they just don't fancy me.
I don't think I always fall for people who are unobtainable, it's just occasionally, I get a bit of bad luck/or they just don't fancy me.
Posted: 18:19 May 11 2002 
There was once a time not so long ago, where I thought that I had zero chance with a certain someone, because I thought she was unobtainable. Turned out I was wrong.
I still get the impression that a lot of people are still far out of my league. But hey, what do we find if we end up saying nothing about it? If you feel a certain way about someone, then you need to tell them, there's nothing to gain by keeping quiet.
I still get the impression that a lot of people are still far out of my league. But hey, what do we find if we end up saying nothing about it? If you feel a certain way about someone, then you need to tell them, there's nothing to gain by keeping quiet.
Posted: 20:50 May 12 2002