I fell in love before gong to university, but she went off with a friend of mine telling me that it made sense as she was going to a Northern University (name withheld as though I not think the person is online people who know him are) and I was going to Southampton. He lived nearer to her university.

I never recovered fully and thought breaking up made sence due to distance, maintained a friendship, with the girl for 8 years.
Then I made the mistake of telling her what I felt, and she said although it was not the worst relationship, as we never argued, it was not a strong one as I never told her anything personal. So 8 years later I tried to tell her everything personal, and she could not cope with me suddenly, as far as she could tell out of the blue telling her everything.
So now the friendship is in tatters and eight years later I had the break with her which she thought she had with me all those years ago. Things did happen 4 years ago between us, but she said that if she knew what I felt for her she would never had done it.
I do miss the friendship badly though. It was weird though last november when I was crying over another girl that that was the first time she had a conversation with me as I almost never said more than two words in a row, which had to be dragged out of me, and would always in conversations just give one word responces.

(Edited by Gopher 13/08/2002 21:00)

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by Miss Edith
They say you only have 1 true love

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That is so not true.

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by Eve
What about there being just one perfect person for each of us, like soul mates, do you believe that?

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I just don't buy that at all... the chances of meeting them are so slim... and you change so much as a person through your life, and also because of the influence of the people you love - the right person for your 20-year-old self may not be the right person when you're 40. It just doesn't work - what if I met someone who was my soulmate, but he or she didn't have the same feelings about me? Disaster is what.

In my book you can fall in love more than once, and mean it, and be right. Some people are lucky and don't need to - Keeny springs to mind - others are like MissKitty and Graham and have to shop around for a bit before finding each other.

I know that sticks a pin in the balloon of the true romantics here who believe in fate and suchlike, and I'm sorry to do that . But it does have an upside too: it means there is always hope. You don't get one strike and out. There's always the chance that tomorrow you'll meet someone you can love, and who will love you back.

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by KieranFrost
Well, I believe I'm far too young to even understand love. I'm nearly at Uni, but still I think people anywhere near this age are just too immature to be in love and it really annoys me when people throw it around the word as if it is real, when it blatantly isn't.

Me personally, I've never been in love, manly because I don't think I can care about someone more than myself. It sounds really selfish, but it's the truth.

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Um... sounds a pretty accurate and honest analysis to me, if rather depressing.

First off - Yvonne, I'm so sorry to hear about your grief

But yes I've been in love twice. The first time, my then boyfriend asked me to move in with him, so I sold my flat and did. A couple of months later he made me homeless by kicking me out and had an affair with my best friends sister needless to say we're not best friends any more and in the end he done me a favour as........

Second time, met Len and we're as happy as happy can be

I love Milky *snigger*

Why does it take so long to get over a breakup and start to move on, I am sure I have never had less than a year of getting over someone, and never managing it. So you get a confused feeling of not knowing who you are getting over. Then when you do start to get over someone you end up getting feelings for someone from before resurfacing stronger than ever.
Should not post when drunk.

You never listen to it, when it's said, but all the old sayings are true,
You never know what you've got till it's gone
Love is blind
The grass is greener on the other side
I could go on, But if you hear one of these, sooner or later you'll repeat it to yourself and know what it all means, it's called experience!!
And with each fall you get up and be stronger,this is the main thing to remember!!!!


(Edited by Mishelisa 15/08/2002 00:43)

I came late in life to love.
I'm kinda glad too cos I could I could approach in in a more adult, grown up manner.

You know when you're in love when you start acting like a 16 year old, you feel young again, your whole body feel like it's emotions are on overdrive, you have physical feelings coming from the middle of your body (maybe your heart), you cannot stop thinking about the one you're in love with, it's bloody great!

However, I do think it's possible to find love again, and again, and again.

I even think it's possible to be in love with more that one person at the same time, only society dictates that we should only have one partner.

I guess the reason most marriages end is cos people fall in love with other people.

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by CJL
I guess the reason most marriages end is cos people fall in love with other people.

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What about if they meet up with the person they fell in love with before and still had feelings for and she she starts acting like they never broke up, can't speak for marrage but can for engagement.

You certainly can find love over and over. Being in love is the best feeling in the world, especially when it's right back at ya!