Some friendships (imo) are never meant to last. They are important to you for a certain period of your life, but then one, or both of you changes and you grow apart. It's not necessarily a bad thing. But it's sad if a freindhsip ends because of something one person does. I think friends are the people most capable of hurting you, but if they are real friends, they shouldn't want to.
However, i do think it's worth trying to mend a freindship if it ended because of a fight. 'kay that's my lot.

(Edited by Rae 07/08/2002 13:14)

Sometimes friendships just drift apart. Things change, people change and you lose the things that you had in common. This has happened to me over and over again as I've grown older. Sometimes it's been because of physical distance, and I've regretted losing touch, but there are people I always thought I'd love to get back in touch with who I saw on Friends Reunited and didn't contact. REading their profiles made me realise that there was too much water under the bridge.

It's a shame when friends have a falling out. Often it's over something stupid and can be mended if one person is prepared to swallow their pride, but it can be a sign that people have drifted apart without recognising that they now have different values and lifestyles until things come to a head. If this guy has settled down with his fiance while the rest of your mates are still busy being single lads I can see why something like this would happen, he has a new set of priorities now and may want to spend his time with people who feel the same way. (Not that that's always a good thing, especially not too early in a relationship, but not knowing all the situation I can't really comment further.)

True friends are friends regardless of how long its been since you spoke. I have friends that dont wanna see me much when i'm single - they like their little 'couples' evenings!

I'd prefer my real MATES that go back years that i can always really on and vice versa

I think that Rae said it all!! Couldnt have said it better

I agree with Rae that some arent meant to last, but lots are! It depends how strong their friendship was to start with. imo they should try and talk stuff out without the fiance getting involved and see whats going to suit them best.

Ive been going through this with my best mate and she doesnt realise how much she isolates herself but she does it everytime she gets with another lad she'll never learn.

I don't think they should be forced to be mates, though if the woman is the reason they split up, I think they should give it another go. If they fell out in other circumstances then it was meant to be.

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by Rae
Some friendships (imo) are never meant to last. They are important to you for a certain period of your life, but then one, or both of you changes and you grow apart. It's not necessarily a bad thing. But it's sad if a freindhsip ends because of something one person does. I think friends are the people most capable of hurting you, but if they are real friends, they shouldn't want to.
However, i do think it's worth trying to mend a freindship if it ended because of a fight. 'kay that's my lot.

(Edited by Rae 07/08/2002 13:14)

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wow, thats almost exactly what Pacey in Dawson's Creek said in episode number #408 (I think) to Andie.

one of my online friends that i used to be very close to,has recently stopped talking to me.i feel its because of her online boyfriend who we are also all friends with,he demands to much attention with her.if i ask her why shes not talking,i get that im whining.i havent spoke to her in ages.last night,she came on to me and said hello and i told her about baby louis,i said that i had already told her but hadnt got a reply.she said she never got the messages.i said i didnt know that then she started insulting me and called me cold hearted.that hurt because i see her as a close friend but now i realise that shes not worth it,as she wont be there when i need her to talk to me.i already find it hard to trust friends as i was bullied all through school and college by my so called best friend,i had to leave college because of her,when i was 18 i lost all my friends and i have had to find new ones.so i havent really had much luck with friends

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by Barbara
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wow, thats almost exactly what Pacey in Dawson's Creek said in episode number #408 (I think) to Andie.

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huh, really? wow, maybe i'm channeling fictional characters ...cool!

ok heres the line. Kinda similer...

Episode #407 You had me at goodbye.

Pacey: Why? Honestly. Why, Andie? I mean... Maybe not all friendships need to be saved. Maybe we're meant to just spend a certain part of our lives with certain people and then move on. Isn't that what this whole year is supposed to be about anyway--movin' on?

Andie: Pacey, we can move on without moving away from each other.

Pacey: Well, maybe we can't.

ok I have wayyyyyyyyyyy to much time on my hands.



(Edited by Barbara 10/08/2002 16:39)

I nearly lost all my friends due to a relationship. Some of it was my fault for wanting to spend time with him, but a lot of it was due to him telling me I didn't need anyone else except him and him brain washing me that my friends weren't worth having...

I believed him for a while, and then I realised how much I was missing out on.

My friends are still my friends even though he's long gone (best decision ever!) and although I don't see them every day or week, I know that they are there for me and vice versa.

My point is, Spike, that you don't know all the circumstances of why your frind is being distant, so all I can say is still be there for him...

(Edited by misskittyfantastic 10/08/2002 18:08)